How to improve relationships with classmates at a university, college
Farewell to school and entrance exams were left behind. This means that all worries and worries too. If you managed to choose a higher educational institution for admission and successfully pass the entrance exams, you can relax and start enjoying life.
But here comes September 1, when the student with trepidation must go to the first pairs. And then he is bound by fear and uncertainty because he will have to step into an audience full of strangers.
Why is it so essential to make the right impression?
Each applicant has a cheerful student life before his eyes:
- exciting parties,
- carefree study,
- dizzy relationship,
- new acquaintances and numerous friends.
Few are counting on intense and active study/cramming. Otherwise few would consciously choose such a life for themselves. By the way, therefore, you need to be prepared and know how to survive the first session, which is incredibly scary and important for newcomers.
But to get at least some of all those expected pleasures that are constantly spinning in your head, you need to be able to impress those with whom you have to study. Therefore, your main task is to make friends with your classmates!
Why is it important? The fact is that while studying at school, people are connected only by territory and necessity. And the student chooses to study at a higher educational institution deliberately. This means that education in this university is chosen by people initially with similar views on life, interests, academic level (not a fact, but more often).
It is in this environment that we will have to spend the next five years. During this time, many will become close and reliable friends. Moreover, in the future, one of them may assist with employment. Indeed, one university direction assumes that all your fellow students will be involved in this area. That is, someone will be an ordinary employee, and someone will be his boss, employer, competitor, or merely a useful person in the business. Therefore, you should not lose your head and cut connections that have not yet been established. Agree; there is a lot at stake to try and improve relationships in the group.
Well, it's just always good to have behind your back understanding and supportive, like-minded people who can become friends for life.
But what if you are not by nature an eloquent speaker and are speechless every time you see a new face? How, in this case, to improve relations with classmates?
3 ways to overcome fear
Don't worry ahead of time. We have some tips for you to help even the most taciturn and fearful cowards make friends in college/institute/university:
Always remember that the audience you are entering includes newcomers just like you. Now is the time to become who you have never been, but have always dreamed of becoming. After all, no one, just like you, knows the rules, customs, foundations of this educational institution. Together you will have to learn this throughout the entire period of study. Although you shouldn't overdo it with fantasy: if you prove yourself in the role that you cannot subsequently match, it will not be remarkable. So, you always have to be yourself, just a slightly more exciting version of yourself. This will help build a stable group relationship.
The first day is an unexpected atmosphere for everyone. People have not yet had time to get to know everyone to form micro-groups for narrower interests. So, in theory, you can go and meet absolutely anyone. On a note! You should not start dating those familiar groups even before entering university (former classmates, for example, or those who attended preparatory courses together). Although there is a low likelihood that people from established groups will behave hostilely, they are just as interested in making new acquaintances.
Forget your past. You could be a loser, a silent person at school, and suffer from ridicule and bullying. Having entered the university, you can start life from scratch. The main thing is not to give yourself an offence and remember that here you have the same rights as everyone else.
How and where to start dating?
What is the most important place for students of all times and peoples? Where do you get the fastest and strongest connections? Where do I get the latest gossip and exam questions? That's right - in the smoking-room!
Do not think that we are forcing you to acquire this addiction! But who prevents you from coming half an hour before class and stand there, listen, take a closer look...?
It is enough to have a little friendliness and cheerfulness in your bosom to start a brief conversation:
- at the desk,
- on the way to the auditorium,
- in front of the office,
- on the way home / to the hostel.
Sometimes just a few phrases are enough to understand the essence of the interlocutor and trust him.
The second most popular place to meet after smoking is the campus. You can do nothing here; new acquaintances will find you anyway!
There is, however, a more modern place for today's freshmen to meet: social media. Having found the same "green" in the network, you can agree to meet and attend classes together. After all, everyone knows that dating on social networks is great for shy people since it does not require any courage. Moreover, no one will recognize you in real life if you have time to screw up on the networks.
The main rule of the first day is not to be shy! This will allow you to get as many acquaintances as your head can hold.
The topics for the first conversation vary from place to place. It can be:
- entry exams,
- training courses,
- new teachers,
- the number of exams and their difficulty in the first session,
- local canteens.
To be ready for the same questions, if the same newcomer wants to meet you, look for information about the chosen university on the Internet from graduates. This will help you gain credibility and appear more experienced and knowledgeable in the eyes of others.
Expert recommendations
Experiment. Gather your courage and meet even the weirdest and seemingly unfriendly people. It often turns out that such people use a silent and unfriendly mask to mask their shyness and responsiveness. If it's terrifying, try to pretend that you are an actor and play the role of agent 007, whom everyone loves. Even if you fail, it is unlikely that anyone will remember this mistake the very next day. Everyone will have too many other experiences.
Always "yes!" joint activities. Until you finally get comfortable, agree to any event: performances, cafes, theatres, walks in the park. Such meetings will allow you to find out better who it is worth being friends and who is better to be afraid of (yes, there will undoubtedly be such people in your environment). Moreover, these hikes will become an additional bright spot in your memory.
Prepare a story about yourself. In any case, you will have to answer questions about your life. It is better to decide in advance what information you will disclose and what you would prefer to leave behind the scenes. It is better to leave the juiciest details for good and trusted friends.
Show interest in others. People love it when someone is interested in their life. Prepare questions in advance that will help reveal the identity of the interviewee. Ask about hobbies, interests, opinions, expectations, and plans. This will help not only to gain favour but also will make the interlocutor feel acceptable to you.
Don't forget that your college years should be the best adventure of your life. For this, it is worth trying a little and at the very beginning of this path to establishing relations with classmates and young people from other faculties. And student service will always be there to make the ups as impressive as possible and the downs as painless as possible.
